The Triangle

Triangled relationships and marriages happen all over the world, but in our country, it's frowned on! If a woman deals with a man she knows is dealing with another woman, I say why? If everyone involved is in agreement and happy with what's going on, then what's the problem? Of course the first thing that will come out of the mouths of haters is AIDS. But if all parties involved are tested and stay HIV- and AIDS-free and are dealing with one another exclusively with protection if necessary, then now what's the problem? Then you haters will say it's just not right, and I'd say, "Not right for whom?" If it's right for him and them, then who are we to judge? That's why this country is riddled with baby mamas and baby daddies, and we as Americans live in the USA, the country with one of the highest divorce rates.You might say, "Because if he sees me, he can't or shouldn't want to be dealing with anybody else," and with that, I say you're right, but shit happens, and in most situations, the man has to lie and sneak around just to have it; and while he is doing all the sneaking, all the lying, and all the cheating, most women know and deal with it for years until they can't take any more of the lies and cheating, not because they don't love him. It's all the lies. Now if a man was up front and honest and able to make both women happy while he was lying and cheating, they would stay, then if he didn't have to lie and cheat, the women should still be happy."Girl, you know he cheating on you, why you stay?"Most girls will say "I don't know," and I call bullshit because I feel you do know. It's because you love him and you know he loves you, and him loving someone else beside you has not diminished the love you have for him or him for them. But I feel in most cases, it's women's fake competition with one another--the reason they feel they should not have to share or aren't willing to share--forcing the man to lie and cheat. And, sweetheart, you still end up sharing, so why not have a different mindset? Look at love and relationships on a whole different level, especially black women. As we all know, Africa and Africans have been having and are still practicing multiple marriages, and since we are descendants of Africans, then maybe, just maybe, that's why you stay in a relationship with a man for years on in, knowing he is sleeping with someone else. Granted, a triangle isn't for everyone, but if you're in a situation where you know your man is seeing another woman and you can't leave, then maybe, just maybe, it's time to start participating in a triangle and find your happily ever after. Fuck what people think!

-- Terrance Ewing